On Diva-Dom and why the eff would I start a blog about it?

Let's just put it out there - Diva is not a great word. Diva is conflicted. It implies greatness and selfishness, talent and egotism, mastery and bitchiness. Diva is an imperfect word. It's a Janus.

What's a diva, to you? A diva is by definition a woman who is recognized as at the top of her class in the entertainment arts, usually a singer. The origin is Latin diva ("goddess"), female of divus ("divine, divine one"). The word also has connotations of egotistic self-involvement and manipulative behavior. A person who seems to think that they are better than those around them and who believes that the rules that govern mere mortals do not apply to them is known as a diva.

Interestingly, one of the traits most associated with the diva is one of having exceedingly high standards and the expectation of having them met. That makes sense if you think about the primary definition... wouldn't you have to have high standards for yourself and the expectation of meeting them if you were to become the best in your field? Wouldn't you have to be one fierce bitch? And further, I think that the diva has consciously decided to own her power. The power and the ability to wield it comes from within, from a self-determination that comes from having seen it, having done it, having practiced like a motherfucker, and having made it. And a woman who has the willingness to own it like that, and the goods to back it up, is what I call a diva.

Now, everyone knows that there are divas who are divas without being fucking divas, if ya know what I mean. There are good divas and there are bad divas. But let's not call them bad divas. Let's call them divas-with-issues-that-behave-in-ways-that-make-you-want-to- carve-out-your-eyeballs-with-a-melon-baller-just-so-you-don't-have-to -look-at-them-ever-again. Perhaps you know such a diva. These are not bad divas. They are divas with behavioral issues. They are just testing you, to see who is the dominant bitch. Dogs do it all the time, it's nothing personal. It's just ... well, don't let her hump you and steal your chew toys unless you want to be the submissive, for-EVER.

So this is a blog for and about good divas, bad divas, wannabe divas, and how-to-be a diva.